This last year has gone by so fast. Last week was officially one year that we have lived in New York...and so much has changed.
Moving here was a really hard decision for both of us. We prayed about it for the first entire year of our marriage. Should we leave Des Moines? Should we leave our jobs here? Our church? Tons of friends?
The decision was much harder for Josh. He had lived in Des Moines for eight years. He went to college in Des Moines, was heavily involved in our church for most of that time, was just three hours from his family in Kansas City and had great friends.
For me, it was still hard because of the relationships I had built there and I had really grown to love the city...but my heart was in Jersey with my family most of the time. It was so hard to be away from them and four day visits just never seemed like enough time. Us Italians are very close to our families and my prayer from the day I drove away from Jersey was to eventually have God lead me back.
...So the move was definitely a sacrifice of love on Josh's part. However, we did not just leave on a whim. We prayed heavily and we felt that God wanted us on the East Coast. The way the first few months played out here...neither of us would have ever imagined.
Josh switched jobs, which was a very big deal for him and there was some disappointment and sacrifice involved there. For me I had to give up a career I loved and worked towards for a decade...which was a messy situation. It was a tough six months for sure. We struggled to find a good church during this time, comparing everything to our old church and wonderful friends in Des Moines. We can officially say the first six months did not go as we thought it would. By month seven I found out I was pregnant. Which was a huge and wonderful surprise!! At this time God provided a way for me out of my job so I could stay home and prepare for the baby, which was such a blessing. I really don't know how I would have gotten through this pregnancy working the job I had. Kudos to all the TV reporters who do it, because it would have been SO hard. In the first two months of pregnancy my health was suffering working that job and it was just not a good situation...Living out of a live truck doesn't really bode well for having to go to the bathroom every second and being on air live doesn't really jive with having morning sickness, dizziness and heart palpitations constantly. So I stopped working by January. Thankfully Josh makes enough money for us to live in this ridiculously expensive state and for me to stay home with baby girl.
By January, we also found a good church to start getting involved with. It has been a slower process than I remember it being in Des Moines. Our Des Moines church was very young and there were many people our age...and being single when we both started attending, we made bonds with people fairly quickly. It was easy there to grow with women and to love on them. We had so many long nights together just talking and getting to know each other...and I miss that.
The ladies and men here are wonderful for sure...but it is different. We are looking forward to serving more with them, now that things are settling down for us with the baby and everything, but it has been a bit harder than we thought it would be. When people are married and have children, priorities and time constraints obviously change. The distance between everything where we live, that is so different as well. In Des Moines everything was close and even walking distance. Here, our church is 30 minutes away and is outside of the main city here, Albany. So that changes things as well.
The cost of living here has also been like a kick in the face. Gas is more money...than even Jersey!!...taxes are high, cost of living is high...and it makes it more limiting in terms of how far your money can go.
By far the best part of the move has been to be around my family and friends in NJ. Being able to attend baby showers, visit babies in hospitals, go to birthday parties and be there for my families birthdays is priceless! I get to see my family ever few weeks instead of 3-4 times a year and with the baby coming it has been awesome to have my mother close, helping me....and I know that is going to be even more of a blessing when baby comes. However, we do miss Josh's family a lot! Now they are half way across the country, which is really hard for us.
Yet, moving here, I feel, has been really good for our marriage as well. Josh and I have an easy marriage. It's easy to love him. He is selfless, he does so much around the house and for me...fighting with each other just doesn't happen. Being together so much more than we were in Des Moines and dealing with sacrifice and change has really allowed us to grow together. He is truly my best friend and my partner in this life and I can't wait to go through this new chapter with him!
We feel that we are in a good place at this point. Not exactly were we want to be on a few levels but we are making it work. One constant, has been God's goodness the entire year we have been here. He has provided for us when we doubted, rescued us out of situations we needed to be out of, blessed us with this baby on the way and continues to remind us that...even though we sacrificed some things to move here... following God and listening to his direction will always produce joy. No matter how much you have to lay down or sacrifice...it is ALWAYS worth it.
Continue to pray for us though friends! We are continuing to seek God on a few other major things and with baby on the way we could use some prayers! <3
Hello friends! I am Lisa. Lover of Christ and family, a former television reporter, a wife and a mom who strives to live a healthy, toxic free lifestyle.